In the silence, I’ve been slowly finding my voice and re-defining who I am according to who God says that I am. Now for everyone that could mean and be something different. No two people are the same. For some, the process may be quick and easy. For others, it can be quite painful and disruptive. Of course in true Tashauna fashion, my process has been the latter. And in my silence, I realized why the pain and disruption are needed.
Betrayal is one of those things we all experience, but we rarely take the time to recognize and break free from the bitterness and resentment it leaves behind. There are a few different ways people tend to deal with an act of betrayal.
A lot of times, especially as women, we’re told, “Marry or find someone who completes you.” So we grow up with this idea that we should look for our soul mate, or someone to make us happy and feel complete. When we think about it in that aspect, or in that manner, it implies that we’re not whole. It implies that we’re half of a person. And it causes us to feel that in order to be happy or to be seen as whole we have to connect with this “soul mate” to find happiness.