A lot of times, especially as women, we’re told, “Marry or find someone who completes you.” So we grow up with this idea that we should look for our soul mate, or someone to make us happy and feel complete. When we think about it in that aspect, or in that manner, it implies that we’re not whole. It implies that we’re half of a person. And it causes us to feel that in order to be happy or to be seen as whole we have to connect with this “soul mate” to find happiness. What we don’t realize is that by speaking words like that or statements like that over our lives, it then allows the spirit of unworthiness to come in and take root because now we’re searching for someone to make ourselves “whole”, when we’re not lacking in any way. This type of thought or rhetoric, opens the door also, for shame, fear, and depression.
So how do we find happiness within?
Here are a few things I’ve discovered to be true during my journey to find happiness within.
1. Happiness is determined by your belief system. Happiness is not determined by others’ belief system. Hold fast to the things that you value in life.
Take delight the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4
2. Do things you enjoy. If you’re an avid reader like me, then re-read some of your favorite books, or find some new ones. If you’re the outdoorsy type, start going for walks or hikes. Do something that brings you joy.
3. Start to visualize and imagine what’s best for you. See yourself getting that new promotion or that car you’ve worked so hard for. You can’t achieve it if you don’t envision it first.
You have to see it, before you See it!
4. Be open to change. Change is a good thing. It opens the door for growth and new opportunities.
What we have to realize is that happiness isn’t found in someone else. We have to get out of the mindset where we are dependent upon other people. God has blessed us and given us everything that we need to succeed in this life. We just have to change our mindset and change our approach. You’re not lacking in any area. You’re already whole, you’re already worthy!
With joy you will draw water from the wells of salvation. Isaiah 12:3
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